When we  suffer from low self-esteem, we are more likely to loose faith in ourselves, feel fearful, depend on other people’s approval and expect negative outcomes in our lives. We may experience some of the following:

Negative self-image

Unsure of yourself, your needs and desires

Unsure of who you really are

Feelings of worthlessness

Acute shyness (difficulties in social situations)

We may all have areas in our lives where we feel confident and others where we lack confidence. How we develop confidence may vary depending on each individual and what they find most effective. Perhaps you have experienced low self-esteem since you were a child, needing to break the pattern imposed on you by your parents. Or perhaps relationships as an adult have been damaging to your self-confidence.
Counselling and Hypnotherapy can help in many ways, exploring your inner thoughts and creating a more positive and balanced view of yourself.

When a miscarriage of stillbirth happens, it may seem quite natural to look for a reason why this happened. Could you have done anything to prevent it? When grief affects us, we try to understand what is going on, maybe blame someone else, when the pain is too much to bear.

A period of grieving is quite natural and healthy after a loss. Talking about your loss can be very helpful in expressing your emotions, unfortunately this is not always possible. For whatever reason, parents often feel that prolonged attention to a miscarriage is not welcome. It may in fact affect the relationship, when one of the partners does not feel supported by the other.

The grieving process is different for everyone, for some it may take longer than others. There is no set time to grieving, but if you feel after a period of time that this loss is affecting your life long term, then maybe you need to look for support.

There are many support groups for parents that have suffered a miscarriage. These may not only give you the support you may need, it may also encourage a social aspect to your life.

Counselling can be another way of understanding what the miscarriage has meant to you. Looking at understanding the grieving process, and looking at ways to move forward.

Deciding on termination is very different for everyone. For some the decision is straight forward, a decision is made. For others the decision is more complex. There may be health risks, both mental and physical; there may be financial or family considerations.

When considering a termination there is a time factor to take into account, which can add to the pressure of the decision.

Counselling can help you look at the facts and your reality to the situation, by looking at the implications to yourself and others around you. At 4TherapyUK all our counselling is none judgemental and we encourage a supportive environment, which may give you the luxury of making a clear and decisive decision.

Counselling may be long or short term, depending on the need of the client. Some women may feel the need for additional support after the termination, as each woman will feel and  act differently.

Avoidance techniques are often used when not wanting to confront the obsession, thus empowering the obsession into a greater fear.

We all have negative and unpleasant thoughts from time to time, for most these thoughts fade away and other thoughts take thier place. People with OCD feel they cannot stop these negative thoughts, and they magnify in ones mind.

Obsessions are many, some may include:

Levels of hygiene and cleaning
Hoarding and collecting things
Fear of not sleeping
Agrophobia
Fear of a door being unlocked and appliances left on
Fear of falling or fainting
Claustrophobia
Fear of going mad
A need of everything to be perfect

It is unknown what causes Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It may have been triggered by a trauma, or event.

OCD can be extremely distressing, and prolonged behaviours can bring on depression and low self esteem. Obsessive behaviours can be embarrassing and time consuming.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can be very helpful in encouraging and exploring where these obsessions started, what is realistic and what is in your imagination. Looking at what these obsessions are and how to turn around your way of thinking into a more positive state of being.

Hypnosis can be helpful as a way of learning how to relax.

Anxiety can coexist with hot or cold sweats, feeling shaky and dizzy, and palpitations. All these symptoms are brought on by your thoughts of panic and anxiety. For many these fears seem very real, and can be disabling, which can dominates your life.

Some examples of fears:-

Health School Social Events
Money Phobia’s Public Speaking
Relationship Dying Crowded Places
Work Contamination Insomnia

Often understanding where these anxieties have come from can be helpful. Looking at triggers of anxiety, what is realistic and what is brought on by fear can help eliminate the repetitive thoughts, enabling you to have a new perspective of thoughts and feelings.

Anxiety is often a condition that seems to spiral out of control, the more anxious you are, the more anxious you become.

Learning how to relax and clear you mind can be very helpful with anxious thoughts. Yoga, relaxation tapes and deep breathing are tools you can used to enhance relaxation.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy can help look at new ways of thinking. By talking about your fears while you engage in positive exercises, that allows the suffer an alternative approach to negative feelings and thoughts.

Whether married, in a civil partnership or living together in an intimate setting  as a couple.

When communication breaks down and both parties feel that they are not living the life they want, it is the time to look at what you both would need to move forward in a positive and understanding way.

It is not always easy to admit that there is a problem within the relationship. Some couples may feel couple counselling is a last resort, they may feel uncomfortable, and may not want to expose their problems to a complete stranger.

When counselling can help!

When you feel you are not listened too.
When you go round in never ending circles.
When you are afraid to broach the subject.
When you are frustrated and confused at what is happening.
Your burden is too much to tolerate.
Out bursts of anger.
Trust has been broken.

Ideally, couple counselling should be attended together, but this is not always possible. One partner may start counselling to look at making changes within the relationship, looking at why they are having difficulties, and finding strengths, and resources to make life more acceptable. It may be that both parties are seeing their problems from completely different perspectives. Two people may have their own values and attitudes, and these differences need to be acknowledged and recognised.

Counselling gives couples a chance to be heard, to give vent to their issues in a safe and confidential manner. By listening to each other, with the support of a counsellor, who is objective and encouraging, often solutions can be found for a better way of living.

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The amount of supervision needed is dependent on many factors, including the level of experience of the counsellor, the number of clients being seen, and the intensity of the workload. Considering these and many other factors, the amount of supervision to be undertaken needs to be regularly reviewed.

Reflecting on practise, looking at areas of work that challenge us, continually develops, maintains and monitors a counsellors emotional health and their ongoing professional development.

As well as establishing the amount of supervision needed, it is imperative a counsellor seeks a supervisor that will meet their own needs and that of their clients.

At 4TherapyUK, all of our therapists are committed to regular supervision with the aim of enhancing their practise, and one of our therapists is currently undertaking a supervision course.

For further information, please visit  :  www.cheshiretherapycentre.com

Sue Gibson
4TherapyUK

For more information about Hypnotherapy in Manchester, Counselling Manchester, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy in Manchester please contact 4TherapyUK.com

We are now able to take appointments at :

Room 3
48 Higher Green Lane Astley Tyldesley Manchester M29 7HG

For more information about:

Counselling Manchester or  Hypnotherapy in Manchester, Cognitive Behaviour therapy, Person Centred Counselling and or Holistic therapy.