Bullying in the work place is quite common and often ignored or not recognised as bullying at all. It can make you feel worthless, sad or even depressed and is a major cause of anxiety. 

We recognise the effects bullying can have on an individual and also on the productive output of a person as well. This can spiral and lead to many different results form poor self esteem and depression, to leaving a job you may have enjoyed in the past. 

Bullying can be from a person in charge say you line manager for example or even from another work colleagues or a group. 

Some examples of bullying:  

Constantly being told your no good at what you’re doing. 

Having excessive pressure put upon you. 

Having other peoples responsibility placed upon you and then not being recognised for what you have done. 

Pranks constantly being played on you. 

Being ignored.  

People whispering or going quiet when you’re in the same room. 

Being physically abused or sexually abused. 

Name calling or being given a nick name which is insulting or offensive. 

When you are constantly harassed it can become your natural expectation to be treated like this and this ultimately lowers your self esteem. 

We can help you to explore these feelings and turn them around. Sometimes it is a case that until we can begin to feel good about ourselves we can not tackle the often hard subject and put a stop to the bullying.

 When you don’t know how to describe your inner feelings it can compound the anxiety of your emotions which in turn can lead to deeper issues and emotions struggling to find a voice.

 By putting pen to paper, we can help ourselves explore any and all of these feelings and emotions in a safe and confidential way.

There are many techniques we can use to help us face this inner turmoil and one way is to write down thoughts, feelings and emotions. Sometimes this can be done in the form of a list or by writing things down randomly. Sometime it can be useful to tell a story or write a poem.

 By writing a short story or poem we can distance ourselves from the problem enabling us to address the feelings and emotions from a different perspective. Reading out our thoughts in a therapy session can be a way to help overcome our reluctance or inability to talk about issues which may be painful or hard to explain. Stories and poetry can be used positively and creatively to help guide you on the path to emotional well-being.

Steve Thorpe

When we  suffer from low self-esteem, we are more likely to loose faith in ourselves, feel fearful, depend on other people’s approval and expect negative outcomes in our lives. We may experience some of the following:

Negative self-image

Unsure of yourself, your needs and desires

Unsure of who you really are

Feelings of worthlessness

Acute shyness (difficulties in social situations)

We may all have areas in our lives where we feel confident and others where we lack confidence. How we develop confidence may vary depending on each individual and what they find most effective. Perhaps you have experienced low self-esteem since you were a child, needing to break the pattern imposed on you by your parents. Or perhaps relationships as an adult have been damaging to your self-confidence.
Counselling and Hypnotherapy can help in many ways, exploring your inner thoughts and creating a more positive and balanced view of yourself.

When a miscarriage of stillbirth happens, it may seem quite natural to look for a reason why this happened. Could you have done anything to prevent it? When grief affects us, we try to understand what is going on, maybe blame someone else, when the pain is too much to bear.

A period of grieving is quite natural and healthy after a loss. Talking about your loss can be very helpful in expressing your emotions, unfortunately this is not always possible. For whatever reason, parents often feel that prolonged attention to a miscarriage is not welcome. It may in fact affect the relationship, when one of the partners does not feel supported by the other.

The grieving process is different for everyone, for some it may take longer than others. There is no set time to grieving, but if you feel after a period of time that this loss is affecting your life long term, then maybe you need to look for support.

There are many support groups for parents that have suffered a miscarriage. These may not only give you the support you may need, it may also encourage a social aspect to your life.

Counselling can be another way of understanding what the miscarriage has meant to you. Looking at understanding the grieving process, and looking at ways to move forward.

Deciding on termination is very different for everyone. For some the decision is straight forward, a decision is made. For others the decision is more complex. There may be health risks, both mental and physical; there may be financial or family considerations.

When considering a termination there is a time factor to take into account, which can add to the pressure of the decision.

Counselling can help you look at the facts and your reality to the situation, by looking at the implications to yourself and others around you. At 4TherapyUK all our counselling is none judgemental and we encourage a supportive environment, which may give you the luxury of making a clear and decisive decision.

Counselling may be long or short term, depending on the need of the client. Some women may feel the need for additional support after the termination, as each woman will feel and  act differently.

Avoidance techniques are often used when not wanting to confront the obsession, thus empowering the obsession into a greater fear.

We all have negative and unpleasant thoughts from time to time, for most these thoughts fade away and other thoughts take thier place. People with OCD feel they cannot stop these negative thoughts, and they magnify in ones mind.

Obsessions are many, some may include:

Levels of hygiene and cleaning
Hoarding and collecting things
Fear of not sleeping
Agrophobia
Fear of a door being unlocked and appliances left on
Fear of falling or fainting
Claustrophobia
Fear of going mad
A need of everything to be perfect

It is unknown what causes Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It may have been triggered by a trauma, or event.

OCD can be extremely distressing, and prolonged behaviours can bring on depression and low self esteem. Obsessive behaviours can be embarrassing and time consuming.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can be very helpful in encouraging and exploring where these obsessions started, what is realistic and what is in your imagination. Looking at what these obsessions are and how to turn around your way of thinking into a more positive state of being.

Hypnosis can be helpful as a way of learning how to relax.

Anxiety can coexist with hot or cold sweats, feeling shaky and dizzy, and palpitations. All these symptoms are brought on by your thoughts of panic and anxiety. For many these fears seem very real, and can be disabling, which can dominates your life.

Some examples of fears:-

Health School Social Events
Money Phobia’s Public Speaking
Relationship Dying Crowded Places
Work Contamination Insomnia

Often understanding where these anxieties have come from can be helpful. Looking at triggers of anxiety, what is realistic and what is brought on by fear can help eliminate the repetitive thoughts, enabling you to have a new perspective of thoughts and feelings.

Anxiety is often a condition that seems to spiral out of control, the more anxious you are, the more anxious you become.

Learning how to relax and clear you mind can be very helpful with anxious thoughts. Yoga, relaxation tapes and deep breathing are tools you can used to enhance relaxation.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy can help look at new ways of thinking. By talking about your fears while you engage in positive exercises, that allows the suffer an alternative approach to negative feelings and thoughts.

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Choose a time when you are least likely to be disturbed. Make sure you are comfortable, either sitting with your head supported or lying down. Listen frequently, as the beneficial effects will increase over time.
Alternatively play the recording at bedtime, just loud enough to hear without straining. You may find that you fall asleep whilst listening, helping you relax and enjoy a restful night.

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