Feeling angry is a normal emotion and indispensable part of the human race. All of us at one time or another will feel angry.

We may feel angry about an injustice or a slight to ourselves or to another person, organisation or cause. Anger can be aroused when we feel we are not being heard, or misunderstood. Your thinking can get inflated and over exaggerated, thus feeding you anger into a highly Voltaire state. Others may feel a lack of control of any given situation, leaving them feeling powerless. In order to redress that balance, anger can be used to take control of the situation.

There may be occasions when you want to express your anger, but feel unable to, and keep these feeling locked up inside. Suppression of anger may lead to depression or anxiety.

Anger is a natural part of the human life, and like all our emotions we do have control, although at times it may not seem like it. Anger can seem like an immediate explosion of emotion, then at other times it may feel like a slow boiling kettle, until you feel the need to let off steam.

Anger can sometimes be a learnt behaviour. Some people may have been brought up with angry parents, teachers, social peers. This may have been a normal way of expression for some, which you have taken on board as your own behaviour.

Communication can help defuse angry feelings. Often angry people can jump to conclusions that may not be incorrect. Talking it through can help reduce your feelings of anger, and enable you to look at the situation differently.

If you feel that your anger is becoming a problem, and that you feel it is becoming out of control. If you find it is affecting your relationships, work place or social events. You may find that CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) will help you look at ways of understanding what is going on for you. Looking at what may trigger your anger, learning coping strategies and how to mange your anger in a new way, CBT may help you discover new way of being for you.

Looking at changing your own behaviour can be a challenging experience, with support and encouragement this is achievable.