All of us at some time in our life will suffer the loss of someone we love. Everyone’s experience of loss is different and very individual. Initially the shock of the event can take time to understand, and come to terms with.

It can take time to comprehend what has happened. To take in that this someone is not coming back to you. The initial shock can leave you numb, and you may have difficulty excepting this loss.

Grief often goes in a cycle; shock may be the first reaction with complete disbelief. For some people they may feel as if they are in a nightmare which they cannot wake up from. As the shock begins to wane, some experience a period of denial, when they feel they cannot accept what has happened.

It is not uncommon to feel anger or guilt, you may be asking, ‘why did this happen’. You may have lost someone unexpectedly; you may feel they have gone before their time. Maybe there were things left unsaid. We may look for blame, with the person who has died.

A feeling of depression can take over in the months to follow, with loss of interest in events and people around you. There are no quick fixes to grief, it is a natural process.

Talking therapy can help you understand what you are feeling, and how you might gain a better understanding of how to cope with your loss.

Eventually these feelings should pass and a period of acceptance of the loss should follow. Time is a great healer and with acceptance we are able to come to terms with our feelings and are able to think about the loss without such pain.

Taking up a hobby can distract the mind from dwelling on the loss. This may feel disloyal at first, as you may feel a connection with the diceased while thinking about them. This is perfectly natural, while remembering that getting on with your life is the best way forward. Your memories are always a part of you, and moving forward with your life and enjoying the present is part of your journey.

For more information view the following:

Counselling Manchester or  Hypnotherapy in Manchester, Cognitive Behaviour therapy, Person Centred Counselling and or Holistic therapy.